“Security is mostly a superstition. It does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure. Life is either a daring adventure or nothing.” Helen Keller

What do you get out of life by sitting around doing nothing? The only acceptable answers here are a.fat, b.bedsores, c. cut-off circulation to an extremity/body part on and d. nothing worth having. For the sake of this post, we’ll be focusing on “d.”

The fact is, the last time I got fit, got a job I wanted, got into school, got a grade I wanted, got a date I wanted, achieved anything I wanted I had to work. And I had to put my ass on the line. I had to put myself in a situation where things were possible.

That didn’t mean that every time I worked hard, pulled all-nighters, or made awesome food and gave foot rubs, etc. to my S.O. it paid off. No, often enough my effort was met with a “You know we completely changed our minds with what we wanted for this article,” “Oh great i got a C-,” and “We need to talk. About us.”

You will NOT succeed every time you work hard.

You will not always achieve your goals.

You will not always get the girl/guy/hermaphrodite/cupcake.

You will have worked hard, and you will have accomplished something you never thought possible. And that should be the reward in itself.

It seems pointless to motivate yourself with the thought of an external reward when you consider that said reward could prove to be non-existent after completing the task. You have to rely on other people to come through and acknowledge your achievement. You have to wait for the world to validate your existence. This habit we’ve gotten into of expecting recognition for doing things that merely determine the outcome of our lives is a product of a world dissatisfied with the intrinsic value of things and the natural consequences of our actions.

You work hard, often you will get a raise. You get a raise, and you’re motivated to work harder. Cause, effect. Simple.

Sometimes, though, you’ll get fired because somebody else has tenure and your company is downsizing. This in and of itself is not the failure; the failure is to not see the opportunity

Now is not the time to sit in a corner and cry. Unclasp your hands from your head, remove yourself from the fetal position and stand up. You’ll be fine.